***DEANS FOR THE ELEMENTARY/MIDDLE
SCHOOL AND HIGH SCHOOL RECENTLY APPOINTED***
Dear Parents,
As the
search for a permanent Headmaster continues, my
responsibilities outside of the school have
increased to a point of making it very difficult
to cover everything well. I approached the Board
before Thanksgiving and they agreed to allow me
to work on developing administrative leadership
with the present staff. Each staff member was
asked to seek God’s direction as to His will for
them to take on some of the administrative
duties of the school.
The
leadership position will be called “Dean”. There
will also be a Head Teacher in each building,
responsible for maintaining order and
discipline. There will be a Dean and Head
Teacher assigned to the high school and
elementary/middle school.
These Deans
will be the main contact for parents, students,
and the other teachers. As the Interim
Headmaster, I will meet with them each day to
discuss any immediate questions and twice a week
after school to plan the administration of the
school. I will be providing guidance to the
Deans as their administrative skills are
developed. The Deans will report to the
Headmaster, while having the authority to answer
questions and assist you when needed. The
Headmaster position will remain the final
resting place for all operational responsibility
of the school. By developing the administrative
skills and knowledge among the present staff, it
will assure that there is continuous growth of
the school.
I am pleased
to announce Ms. Rebecca Harper as the Dean of
the High School and Mrs. Susan Mackall as the
Dean of the Elementary/Middle School. Mr. Coy
will continue his role as Head Teacher in charge
of discipline for the Elementary/Middle school,
while Mr. Connor will fill that role at the High
School. Their responsibilities began upon return
from Christmas break. All of these teachers have
demonstrated a love for the school, a commitment
to its mission, and embrace the spiritual and
academic development of every student. The Deans
will make themselves available to you if you
have any questions or concerns.
Sincerely,
Doug Hiscox,
Interim Headmaster
***Please
note that future articles in this section will
be coming from our newly appointed deans.***
To have your name added to the direct-emailing list,
please contact Mr. Hiscox directly with your email information.
doug.hiscox@amspirit.us
To contact our
deans:
Elementary/Middle School -
mrsmackall@elchristian.org
High School -
msharper@elchristian.org
DON'T FORGET TO
CHECK OUT OUR CURRENT EVENTS & STUDENT HIGHLIGHTS
PAGES FOR MORE INFORMATION ON RECENT/UPCOMING
ACTIVITIES!
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7 Steps to Keep from Yelling at Your Kids
Written by Shawn R. Lilly
Question: I
grew up in a home where yelling was the most common communication method. I
swore that I’d never be that way with my own kids, but lately, I find myself
losing my cool fairly often, especially when I’m tired. How can I get it
together?
Answer:
Have you ever shut off your car with the radio still on and then been surprised
by the volume level the next time you start the ignition? It’s amazing how we
can lose sensitivity to volume within even a short drive. Yelling at your kids
is similar. It teaches them to tune you out, and it replaces respectful
communication with anger, creating emotional distance.
To work on communicating without yelling, here
are seven guidelines:
1. Respond appropriately; don’t react
emotionally. Calmly address the problem, and be the objective adult you are.
2. Encourage your children to respond to what
you’re saying, checking to see if they understand you correctly.
3. State your feelings about the problem,
owning them but not unleashing them. (“I feel frustrated when you dawdle because
I end up late to work.”) Take responsibility for your emotions, making sure not
to blame your children for them.
4. Place yourself in your children’s shoes. How
would you want to be treated in their position?
5. Look your kids in the eye. Make eye contact
when they are speaking (to prove you’re attentive) and when you are speaking (to
emphasize the importance of what you’re saying).
6. Choose your battles and battle times
carefully. Keep small things small. If you treat every issue as a huge problem,
children will have a hard time knowing what’s important and what’s not. Your
best bet? Set aside times for talking about big issues; schedule for periods
when you’re both in a decent mood and mindset. Avoid times when you’re
distracted by appointments or circumstances.
7. Touch your children when talking about tough
issues. A loving touch communicates they are important to you even when they
mess up.
To remember these guidelines, think of RESPECT:
Respond appropriately, Encourage a response, State your feelings, Place yourself
in their shoes, Eye your kids, Choose your battles, and Touch your children.
In addition, if you were exposed to hostility
while growing up, your ability to use and express anger in productive ways may
be hindered. Some great books and workbooks in the Christian market can help you
identify your anger triggers and shore up areas of weakness. (Try “The Anger
Workbook for Christian Parents” by Les Carter and Frank Minirth.)
As you mentioned, being tired makes you more
prone to angry outbursts. The Bible says to “be angry and do not sin” (Ephesians
4:26). To promote healing, seek forgiveness from God and your children. Then
commit yourself to understanding your anger, letting go of past hurts, and
learning better ways to communicate and resolve present problems.
Shawn R. Lilly,
m.a., m.s., is a professional counselor at the Babb Center, a counseling
ministry of First Baptist Church Hendersonville, Tenn. For the last 10 years,
she has counseled individuals, couples, and families.
excerpt from :
http://www.lifeway.com/article/165935/
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